3 Most Cruel Narcissist Behaviors

Rebecca Zung
3 min readApr 24, 2024

By Rebecca Zung, Esq.

Today, I’m going to be delving into one of the darkest and most disturbing narcissistic behaviors. I’m going to explore three of the most cruel narcissistic behaviors. Hi, I’m Rebecca Zung, an attorney and a narcissist negotiation expert. On this channel, we discuss how to break free from narcissists. If you haven’t subscribed, hit that notification bell, and if you haven’t subscribed to my newsletter, you can get my free Crush My Negotiation Prep worksheet at winmynnegotiation.com.

So as we all know narcissists are very so cruel, so awful, and we’re going to explore specifically the three most cruel narcissistic behaviors. These are the most destructive, leaving a profound impact on their victims or, as I prefer to say, targets. You can break free from their grip, and I talk about this in my new book, “Slay the Bully: How to Negotiate with a Narcissist,” which you can get at slaythebully.com.

Critiquing and devaluing their victims is the first behavior, and it’s just horrible. They have a twisted way of making their victims feel inadequate and worthless by constantly criticizing them, whether overtly or through passive-aggressive means. The hurtful comments gradually erode self-esteem, leaving victims feeling insignificant and undeserving, leading to anxiety, depression, and emotional scars.

Withholding affection for leverage is the second cruel behavior. Narcissists deliberately withhold affection, creating a constant sense of longing in their victims. In parent-child relationships, a narcissistic parent may give cold shoulders, refuse hugs, or completely ignore the child as punishment. This emotional manipulation can lead to long-lasting effects, influencing the victim’s relationships in adulthood.

Blaming their partner for their own negative emotions is the third behavior. Narcissists tend to blame their partners for any negative emotions they experience, even when it’s clearly their own fault. This blame-shifting tactic undermines the victim’s self-confidence, fostering guilt and self-blame. In a work environment, a narcissistic boss might explode in anger at employees for their own failures, causing stress and frustration among the team.

If you’ve ever wondered what lies behind the mask of a narcissist, you’re in the right place. These behaviors can leave you feeling emotionally scarred and struggling to rebuild your life. The impact of narcissistic abuse is profound, and recognizing the signs is crucial for taking action and seeking help. Remember, you’re not alone, and there is a path to healing.

If you found this article helpful, hit subscribe, and share it with someone who could find it useful. Seek help from trusted sources, friends, family, and professionals who can provide the support and guidance you need. Remember, knowledge is power, and together, we can create a world where narcissistic abuse is no longer tolerated. Until next time, take care, stay empowered, and remember that today is a great day to start negotiating your best life. They only win if you give in. I’m Rebecca Zung, and I can’t wait to keep you empowered and inspired in the next article!



Rebecca Zung

She is a Top 1% attorney, narcissist negotiation expert, YouTuber & creator of the SLAY Your Negotiation w/ a Narcissist program. www.rebeccazung.com