10 Words Narcissists Can’t Handle

By Rebecca Zung, Esq.

As someone who has spent years studying narcissism and negotiating with narcissists, I’ve come to realize that there are certain words that narcissists simply can’t handle. These words challenge their self-centered nature and threaten their carefully constructed facade of superiority. In this blog post, I’m going to share with you the 10 shocking words that narcissists just cannot handle.

1. Empathy: Narcissists struggle to understand or connect with the concept of empathy. It goes against their self-centered nature, and they become defensive or angry when confronted with this word. They dismiss others’ feelings, turn conversations back to themselves, or fail to acknowledge emotions.

2. Accountability: Holding narcissists accountable for their actions is a challenge. They avoid taking responsibility and often blame others or external factors for their mistakes. When confronted, they deflect blame onto others or circumstances.

3. Vulnerability: Narcissists fear vulnerability as it requires a level of openness they’re uncomfortable with. They want to maintain an image of invincibility and perfection, avoiding discussions about their fears, doubts, or struggles.

4. Forgiveness: They struggle to forgive others, holding onto grudges for years. Forgiveness requires letting go, and they want to maintain their sense of superiority and moral high ground.

5. Equality: Narcissists resist the idea of equality, wanting all attention and recognition to be directed at them. They believe they should receive special treatment and that others should be subordinate.

6. Constructive Criticism: Narcissists are extremely sensitive to criticism, perceiving it as a personal attack. They reject feedback and view any suggestion for improvement as an affront to their superiority.

7. Authenticity: Authenticity is the enemy of narcissists, as they are masters of wearing masks. They avoid revealing their true selves and fear any exposure of their vulnerabilities.

8. Emotional Intimacy: They shy away from emotional intimacy and deep connections, opting for superficial relationships. Sharing emotions or engaging in emotional vulnerability is uncomfortable for them.

9. Boundaries: Narcissists disregard boundaries and see others as their property. They challenge and cross boundaries, believing that everything and everyone should be under their control.

10. Self-Reflection: Narcissists avoid self-reflection and self-awareness. They resist therapy or any form of self-improvement because it threatens their self-perceived image of perfection.

Understanding these words and the reactions they provoke in narcissists can be empowering. It’s essential to maintain your boundaries and protect yourself when dealing with narcissistic individuals. Remember, they only win if you give in, so arming yourself with knowledge is key to navigating these challenging relationships.

In conclusion, dealing with narcissists can be incredibly challenging, but being aware of the words that trigger their reactions can help you communicate more effectively and protect your own well-being. Remember, today is a great day to start negotiating your best life.